So let’s say he is just a mechanic — does it matter?I say no, his profession does not matter: a happy spouse is a good thing.That said, you are likely to encounter some differing views on your husband’s profession.Readers have joked a lot that they would love to be electricians (set your own hours and prices, always in demand, etc.), and my own first thought was, “that’ll be great, because when you start to make real money you and he can buy a franchise or set up his own shop and really start to pave your own way.” But that may assume an ambition that isn’t there on the part of your fiance — maybe he has no desire to ever run his own shop or be a boss/manager.He also seemed, well, Forget the old notion of "marrying up." As baby boomer women advance in the workplace, they are broadening their field of available suitors by pairing up with blue-collar men who seem less threatened by their success and independence.
"Raymond was definitely in a class by himself in every way," said Odette Duggan, 48, a Department of Education manager, whose husband, Raymond, is a maintenance worker. "When I said he should consider buying a tux, he was like, 'Okay, let's go get a tux.' He was moldable." Given that women's education levels and career achievements have surpassed those of men in some key areas, it's not surprising that they are finding fewer available mates among their social peers.If I were inclined to listen to conventional wisdom, I would be forced to conclude that I’m doing terribly in the mating market.Apparently, women universally and immutably prefer to “marry up.” We want men who are more educated and earn more money, and this is the single most important trait we seek in a man. My boyfriend of four years—even though he is undeniably gorgeous, kind, and honest—falls much farther down the ladder of social prestige than me. I earned six figures my first year of practice and work in a firm whose letterhead is populated with Ivy League graduates.I was hoping, however, that dating would give me an opportunity to expand my relatively limited world-view.About 10 years ago, when I first began exploring issues related to socioeconomic status, a friend at the time recommended the book Limbo: Blue-Collar Roots, White-Collar Dreams, by Alfred Lubrano.