(Personally, I would not have guessed than a NT would have reacted that way to hand holding!) So now that we are clear that people are comfortable with different levels of touch and intimacy at different times, let’s tackle the tough end-of-date question: To kiss or not to kiss? And on my dates with each of them, exactly none of them made a move to kiss me.But two of them did ask me out again (the third I just went out with last night, so we'll see), so it's clearly not a matter of them being not interested, right? More on first date canoodling (who says canoodling, really?What is too fast for you may be agonizingly slow for your potential partner. Just last week, for example, my client on the autism spectrum broke the touch barrier by holding hands with a neurotypical potential partner and the date started falling apart from there.The potential partner said that my client broke the touch barrier too quickly.
It pains me, as a coach, to see my clients with autism or aspergers finally landing a date, enjoying themselves on it, and then getting “shot down” at the end of the evening.
Why wouldn’t your potential partner want to kiss you on a first date?
I’m going to start an incomplete list of reasons, and you can add your ideas in the Comments, below.
It’s important to develop a personal rapport before you take it to the next level.
Unless you’re still in high school, kissing on the first date is perfectly acceptable, though not required. If you met online, it’s a blind date, or it’s your first date after that chance meeting when you gave him your number, take your time.