How can you tell if a guy's wife has cheated on him? "I think he's mad at his wife for cheating on him," she said. It's been four years since the Yankees won a pennant, and even longer since Robin Williams made a funny movie. What makes dealing with infidelity so difficult for men? Dealing With Infidelity: The Stubborn Images in Your Head "A lot of people have affairs," says Mark Epstein, MD, a psychiatrist in private practice in New York City and author of Open to Desire: Embracing a Lust for Life. The hardest thing for men in that situation is to let it be history." That's rather ironic, given that women often complain about men compartmentalizing everything else. "A lot of marriages don't break up just because someone has had an affair." Does that mean women are better at letting things go?
Well, it depends on the guy, of course, but I do recall my wife and I having dinner with a couple she knew better than I, and thinking that the husband was being awfully rude to the mother of his children. Not according to Louanne Cole Weston, a family and marriage counselor and licensed sex therapist in Fair Oaks, Calif.
" "No, this all happened five years ago." For most guys in most matters, five years would be an eternity. "[The faithless wife] is a very common theme in porn, but when it gets turned around [when the porn role is being played by your wife] -- it's too intolerable." "I just can't get that image out of my head," his patients will say. "Affairs are common and happen for all kinds of reasons, and our culture promotes it," Epstein advises those interested in surviving infidelity.
"As a group, women hold on to negative -- and positive -- emotional experiences longer than men," she says.Although individuals with any orientation can choose celibacy, it is quite impossible for any person to totally control and eliminate their sexual feelings.The Witness' literal and restrictive interpretation of Jesus' statement places an immense emotional load on its heterosexual, bisexual, gay and lesbian membership who try to live up to the group's expectations.We are guided by the very basic belief that all human beings are created (in the Divine image), as it says in Genesis , “And God created humans in God’s own image, in the image of God, God created them; male and female God created them.” Rabbi David Saperstein, director of the RAC has said, “regardless of context, discrimination against any person arising from apathy, insensitivity, ignorance, fear, or hatred is inconsistent with this fundamental belief.We oppose discrimination against all individuals, including gays, lesbians, and bisexuals, for the stamp of the Divine is present in each and every one of us.” Today, in addition to several congregations whose primary outreach is to the LGBT community, LGBT Jews and their families are welcome in all of Reform temples.