M., or whether we could roll around in bed, maybe watch a movie and waste half the day (guess which one I prefer).__What's your choice for a last meal (before execution)? I want to hear how important food is to her, and how creative her tastes are. I'm, frankly speaking, an amazing cook, and I want to know what's she's bringing to the table (also helps me weed out the vegetarians, without having to ask; I'm fine with vegetarians, but it's like a religion, I prefer to know early). If she says "my vacation house in Bali" I know she's probably got money and spends time on exotic islands. I am deeply suspicious of people who are OK with them. This cheeky question is posed to see if she's down with a little sauciness, and how funny or creative she can be with her naughty answer. I'm an active fellow, and I like to know that people I'm interested in are as well. And while I'm not too much of a snob about it, I need to know what she's going to make me listen to. If she says "my job" I know that work is super important to her. Best one I've gotten back: "Not nearly recently enough! I don't care if it's "jogging" or "skateboarding" or "powerlifting," (well, I care if it's powerlifting), I just want to know she's into fitness.__First dance song you'd put on a mix tape? It's also a great way to read a person: the music they would give to someone else. What questions would you ask someone you were messaging online? More on Dating at Glamour.com25 First-Date Dos and Don'ts"How We Met" Stories: Do You Love Yours? She played along and pushed right back and they’ve already got a first date lined up. “He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.” “So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? Wouldn’t it stand to reason that if you took the time to write something interesting and creative back to these guys, you might discover that they actually have a personality?I asked this client what made this email exchange different from the other exchanges. I mean, from the majority of your emails, you sound really boring, too.You could each write down questions on scraps of paper--serious and fun so the mood doesn't get too heavy - and throw them into jars (yours in one, his in another).
I mean, if he likes a quiet, shy girl with a degree who loves to read and write and you’re more of an outgoing gal with a different event planned every day of the week, you might not hit it off.
You could also play a game where, for every point scored, the person who earned the point gets to ask a question.
Just be sure to choose a game you're sure to win or tie, or you may find yourself doing all the talking.
And yet this one guy with the trivia questions was able to bring out your playful side.” The moral of the story is that you are ALWAYS responsible for how you leave a conversation. By being optimistic, playful, interested and interesting, you can almost always transform any evening into a pleasant experience.
The problem is that we don’t; we expect the other person to do the heavy lifting – to make the plans, to ask the silly questions, to raise the playing field.