Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.Once considered a realm inhabited only by the socially awkward, online dating is now just another tool in the toolbox, no matter whether you’re looking for a hook-up or your soulmate.....To explore this topic, I pulled aside two individuals who I knew were hunting for a long-term relationship using online dating websites, and asked them about their experiences with the services.The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.
On one end, you might spend less time in dingy stinky dive bars hoping the next drink will make her/him attractive. Once you go onto an online dating site, you might have your profile protected from public view but let’s FACE IT; Your pretty face is being solicited in public for everyone to see. At the very least it says, “I’m single and looking for action.” I know if any of my friends saw my face on one of these sites, I’d hear my coworkers saying, “so Lief, I saw you on Tinder the other day. ” San Francisco is not a big town and if you are looking for other singles in a tight proximity, there is a high chance you can find someone you already know. 64% of people said they were driven by common interests (Source: Statisticbrain). They use 400 questions on the e Harmony survey so I’m sure they can link up commonality in some form or another with a ton of unqualified potential partners. This is your real life and if you don’t have a good story, you are probably doing it wrong. Now do it over again, and this time, answer honestly.It took Amy Webb a few passes around the online dating world to see the one glaring problem with sites like Match.com: People who use them — herself included — don't answer the questions honestly.My postulation is that the expectation for relationships to “progress” is a little more urgent for those resorting to online dating. I’m exploring and researching this space a little more.I’m intrigued by the rapid growth of some of these companies receiving millions of dollars in funding.