You match on a dating app, you exchange some banter, you receive an unsolicited dick pic two minutes into the conversation, so you inevitably fall in love. A new dating app though, is changing that tried and tested narrative.
British app Trueview claims to have invented a filter which stops users at least some unsightly nudes, because it stops users from uploading 'inappropriate' pics to their profile.
Co-founder Matt Verity says: “I think the majority of online daters want penis shots and gratuitous body flashing shots to be a thing of the past.
We have always promoted an honest dating space for people who are looking to form relationships rather than find casual hook-ups.
I can’t even believe I have to even say this, but it appears I must: Prospective dates don’t want to know what you look like on a Sunday when you haven’t run a comb through your hair, or shaved, or put on a stitch of makeup. As a rule, women tend to fudge their weight while men fudge their height. Not one day when you decided to make yourself look weirder than usual. It’s not the worst idea in the world to get some nice shots done of you.
Someone you date may eventually see you that way, but I wouldn’t say it’s what you lead with. Sure, you looked great in 1992, but since I don’t have a time machine, I can’t meet that person. And both lie about their age (something I do NOT recommend). So don’t go on a whole rant in your profile defending your age, etc. Dudes are especially prey to this kind of digital dismemberment. Either way, the person viewing it is wondering what you “really” look like. I have a friend who decided to do this, and has some really great pictures, that yes, she uses on her dating profile, but she also has.
Scroll through to see some of the things real women encounter while dating online—things that have them swiping left and X-ing out their browsers faster than you can say ? It's like if a guy shows up to your date in sweatpants. Plus, white Hanes tanks make me think of, like...early 2000s Avril Lavigne. Your mouth should not jingle like a pocket full of change when you speak.
Christopher Cantwell never asked to become a moderator of online dating site Ok Cupid.
The site tapped him, without warning, and now he’s privy to private conversations, lovers’ tiffs, and the sometimes dark, often inane, unseen side of the online dating world.
Ok Cupid did not respond to requests for additional information on how it works with its moderators. There are strict guidelines for profile pictures -- no nudity, it must be of you (no "pets, cars, artwork, etc."), no extreme closeups -- and a predictable set of rules governing good behavior -- no spamming, no hate speech, no harassment, no "commercial solicitations," no “crude, overt sexual remarks" and no threatening messages.
Cantwell walked us through life as an Ok Cupid moderator and what happens on the side of the Internet most never see. Users can flag a profile and then the profile gets put into what’s basically a queue for the moderators to go through. People report things like, “There’s a picture of their car” and I’m like, “I don’t care if they post a picture of their car, I don’t care what the rules are.” Out of a few dozen, I’d say I’ve only flagged two or three for deletion.