In Cairo, my family lives on the ground floor of an old building, in a sprawling, high-ceilinged apartment with three doors to the outside.One door opens onto the building’s lobby, another leads to a small garden, and the third is solely for the use of the , or garbageman, who is named Sayyid Ahmed. Just because we met doesn’t mean we have to get married. We get the social pressures on you to be a “good wife and mother”, but you need to chill. The fact that we went out on a few dates or I told you I like you is most definitely NOT a marriage proposal. Despite that stigma, in recent years Tinder and online dating websites like Ok Cupid have become increasingly popular among upper- and middle-class Egyptians looking to find anything from hookups and sex to dates to new acquaintances in Cairo, Egypt’s chaotic capital of over 20 million people.For the far fewer Egyptian women than men on these sites, however, secrecy is also part of the game: Most women interviewed requested anonymity because they feared for their reputations if family, friends, or colleagues knew they dated or met partners online.On the topic of men and women and what each one wishes they could say to each other without throwing a tantrum and eventually breaking up: Here’s my two cents. Well, trust me when I say, just like you don’t want random guys adding you on Facebook, we don’t want random women adding us on Facebook. During my time on Facebook, I’ve been added by quite a few women, yet I never threw a shit storm and sent “Why the hell are you adding me? Face it, Facebook has its perils as well – and a block button.
Any woman who has ever gotten involved with an Egyptian man knows that as soon as she tells anyone about it they will immediately go to work trying to get you to end the relationship.
You will hear every horror story about them, their friends, and friends of friends who got involved with an Egyptian and ended up like Sally Field in Not Without My Daughter. First of all let me say here in no uncertain terms am I stereotyping or generalizing all Egyptian men. I'm also not saying that relationships between Egyptian men and "western" (I hate that word but will use it for lack of better term) women don't work. I am happily married to an Egyptian and have friends who are happily married to Egyptians.
So are they just coming up with a worst case scenario to scare the hell out of you? But there is a definite problem out there and in some cases heartache is more likely than a happy ending.
And while in Egypt Tinder profiles advertising shirtless men with cars, police and military officers, and older men with rings on their fingers are standard, cases of swipes to the right turning to marriage remain rare.
“I get very angry because you’d swipe through and you’d see all these shirtless guys with their guns and cars,” said a 27-year-old Egyptian lawyer.