The research shows men who spend even a few minutes in the company of an attractive woman perform less well in tests designed to measure brain function than those who chat to someone they do not find attractive The research shows men who spend even a few minutes in the company of an attractive woman perform less well in tests designed to measure brain function than those who chat to someone they do not find attractive.Researchers who carried out the study, published in the Journal of Experimental and Social Psychology, think the reason may be that men use up so much of their brain function or 'cognitive resources' trying to impress beautiful women, they have little left for other tasks.Abusers are not violent all the time- sometimes they are nice, sometimes sweet, sometimes hot, sometimes sexy. But I think our condemnation could be much stronger without a component of judgment that serves to “other” DV relationships as fundamentally different than relationships without a DV component. People who beat each other up also can have hot sex with each other.I think it’s dangerous to just condemn the depiction of these multi-faceted aspects of DV instead of acknowledging the role that this dynamic plays in perpetuating and enabling violence against women. And sometimes the fact that they beat each other up plays a part in their sexual dynamic.
I'm bisexual, predominantly leaning toward women and I like to try new things in the bedroom.And as such, it has value in the ongoing and certainly imperfect dialogue about what DV is and how to prevent it.Lori, I think that you’re right to point out that there is nuance to a violent relationship – and that a depiction of a complicated DV situation shouldn’t be criticized out of hand. We posted the video and you weighed in, and now some of the Feministing crew takes apart the video and whether or not it’s a win for DV awareness… For more takes on the video, read Broadsheet and Sociological Images. The message that violence is sexy is not only fucked up, it’s played out.I think what really annoyed me about this music video wasn’t that it was showing a violent relationship as sexy true love (though that bothered me as well), but that it’s being positioned as a vid that’s taking on the cycle of domestic violence…because it really doesn’t.