Think about it for a moment, how hard do you work at avoiding that person?Now ask yourself this simple question: There is always some core reason for such strong feelings.Why does it feel like they are able to take control of your feelings?Perhaps they are your employer or supervisor and it feels like they hold your career in the palm of their hand. Maybe they are just plain mean and confrontational and you are one of their favorite targets. In a moment I am going to answer that question for you, but there is a good chance you won’t like what I am about to say.The use of power, authority, position and status to intimidate workers into compliance is, at many companies, considered to be one of the most effective of management’s bag of coercive tools.Respect for authority, position and status is fine, but using them to intimidate others into submissive acquiescence is quite another thing.You get used to them, start to see them as normal people, and learn firsthand that they have flaws and quirks and insecurities like everyone else.
On this occasion Beatrice dressed to dazzle and intimidate one of her own sex.Any of these situations can seem intimidating, and no sane person seeks out intimidation.Have you ever wondered what gives that scary person the emotional leverage to manipulate your feelings?Is there someone that makes you feel intimidated or insecure? It really doesn’t matter who that person is, if at all possible, we will naturally look for ways to limit our exposure intimidation and insecurity.Does someone you know bring out these feelings in you?