While you might be feeling stressed or panicked, if you can take a beat, you’ll see that the person who is possibly rushing you is likely doing it with good, pure intentions.**Side note, if this is not the case and you’re feeling pressured into anything you’re not comfortable with, put that pretty foot down now and acknowledge that behavior head-on.So how do we align our speeds so that everyone feels happy and comfortable without ruining the momentum entirely? Usually, I think the culprit for things moving too fast is excitement.So even acknowledging that can be a helpful first step. To be perfectly and painfully honest, I have never had the opportunity to take one.In the fall of my senior year of college, as my friends and I were putting the last solid touches on our post-graduation plans, some were applying to become FOCUS missionaries.In relationships it really is true that patterns develop early on and if you don’t want this to be one, nip it in the bud, or bid that bud farewell.
Sarah Vielma wrote about joining FOCUS despite needing to pause her existing relationship to take on the dating fast, so it’s more than just a simple “no dates” ban. One female friend of mine was excited to interview to become a FOCUS missionary specifically because of the dating fast. To this, I replied that she didn’t to become a missionary just for the dating fast.In addition to raising their own income and going wherever they were sent for two years, they were required to commit to a year-long dating fast.The restriction goes away after the completion of year one. Don't you love being in a relationship where you are so comfortable that you can totally be yourself? I would learn later of how much being in the middle would cost us both.