I told her I needed to think about it, I really like this girl but can I change her mind on this?I came out 12 years ago and it was a struggle at times but I know I am stronger for being a lesbian and I wish my new girl could feel it too. Dating someone who is not willing to be visibly lesbian puts you back in the closet a little bit.
There’s no guarantee that dating her will give you influence to help her feel more comfortable being out.
But for gay couples in this day and age, this problem is sometimes bypassed by a much more complicated one.
What happens when your boyfriend of girlfriend is in the closet?
Don’t be offended if she’s not ready to introduce you to her mom and dad, Uncle Tom, and her best friend from Catholic school. That’s okay, so long as she realizes you have to be open about your sexuality, even if she isn’t.
And don’t turn every date into a psycho-therapy session, trying to convince her it’s time to come out with who she is. Just as you might be irked by her refusal to come out, she might be annoyed by your obsession with being “so lesbian.” Talk about it before things fester.