Whether or not one might be willing to admit it, everyone has been attracted to a teacher at some point during his or her 12 years of schooling.
But in college, these fantasies are much more realistic possibilities because we’re all legal adults and we have a new degree of autonomy outside of our parents’ homes.
Again, there is much merriment at the beginning as we order and consume our first sips of alcohol, but then it begins to feel as though we are both fish flopping around on hot concrete and the inevitable silence becomes too crushing to stomach. I truly care about these former students; they initiate this drinking ritual.
And yet, there is almost always something off about our interactions.
It’s never the same as it once was, back in the classroom. There have been notable exceptions, but those are few and, somewhere along the way, I learned that, for the most part, teacher-student relationships have a shelf life.
Watch the trailer for Matthew Quick's novel I began teaching high school literature classes in 1997 and stopped in 2004, so I’ve had a lot of time to think about the above.
And they too are usually intelligent, accomplished, published, and passionate.
We experience our TAs in a much more relaxed, casual setting.
I always said, “Sure,” thinking they’d graduate and forget all about me. It usually played out like this: a drink arrives unordered and the server points out a familiar face at the other end of the room. And then silence finally conquers all, at which point we hug awkwardly and part ways.
Coupled with our developing passions for what we study, an encounter with someone with a depth of knowledge in our field can be incredibly alluring.
Yes, professors can be hot because they’re intelligent, accomplished, published, and passionate.
Would it have been different if it were a male teacher and an 18-year-old girl? There is no question that there is a double standard in sex abuse cases, and nowhere is it more apparent than in what seems to be the growing number of teacher sex cases.
We all react with shock at the very idea of a male teacher "taking advantage" of young women in his class; I can't imagine a panel having trouble with criminal charges in such a case, no matter how good looking the man, indeed, especially if he were good looking.