recently) divorced, and you’re wondering if dating this man is a good idea. Some people might automatically say you shouldn’t date anyone who falls into this category, but I’m not a fan of telling someone whether they date someone. My approach is to help you get super realistic about what you want, and what you’re getting into, so that you can make your decision to stay or leave as as possible.You probably have a million questions on your mind. With that said, if you meet someone you’re really attracted to, but the ink on his divorce papers hasn’t yet had time to dry, you are going to need to approach some things differently if you want to minimize the risk of getting your heart broken.Finally around , he came to the beach and explained to me that he had gone to lunch with a group of people.Needless to say, this created a heated conversation of why he didn’t invite me to come along with him.Even if you’re the one who wanted out, there’s still going to be a big hole in your brain where your relationship used to live.So I decided to sit down and come up with an FAQ / survival guide for divorced guys who are looking to get back in the game.But if you are considering him as possible life-partner, it’s good to know what you’re getting into, so you can decide, very consciously, whether you want to wade into deeper levels of commitment with him.
What you’re about to read is what I’ve learned by talking to hundreds of guys who have been through a divorce plus all of the research I have done over the years.If you’re a divorced guy, you don’t need to hear it from me: divorce sucks. Basically every student that attends our weeklong residential program in Los Angeles who’s divorced tells me that it’s the hardest thing he’s ever gone through in his life.What’s more, guys who have been through a divorce generally aren’t in a huge hurry to get back on the horse and start dating again. At least as much as someone who has never been there can.At the time this annoyed me, and I wondered if he was as into me as I hoped.One afternoon I had been on the beach since after the morning general session, but I had not heard from my boyfriend all day.