It’s best to have a sense of what kind of vacation experience you want to get, prior to embarking on the journey.Talk with your travel partner about your hopes and expectations.The end of a working life signals a loss of colleagues and team spirit.The end of a relationship, through divorce or death, is harder to recover from.Which is to say that you cannot overstate the impact your mate has on your life.Your career is a product of what you and your spouse make room for.

There are a lot of ways to help yourself feel like you are in control of your future.

All the references to “loving relationships and more” do not appeal to me. Do you know of an organisation I can pay to find a matching companion? I am sure you are not the only person who feels the way you do. You are the last person whose letter I am going to answer in this column because my tenure, by my choice, is nearly at an end.

I am told that I have a bubbly personality and am very warm and kind. I will be saying more about this next week when I have a look back, but I want to flag up to readers that I will not be answering any more problems.

Do you want to meet new people, or get to know each other better?

Do you want to experience serenity or stimulation – do you want to retreat from civilization, or get caught up in the excitement of an urban center?