Whether you’re on a date, making new friends, connecting with family, or vetting co-workers, sometimes getting to know someone isn’t as easy you’d expect.
We’ve all been there: Racking your brain, trying to think of a conversation starter and all you can come up with is “How’s the weather? ” What’s even worse is being stuck on a date with nothing to talk about! I say, worry no more: The key to making conversation or getting anyone to open up is knowing the right questions to ask.
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] Remember this, insecurities and frustrations in a relationship crop up more often when you’re secretive, than when you’re truthful.
Tip #2: Many of these questions will bring up sensitive material.
The secret to having a great conversation is to ask open questions (as opposed to yes/no questions) and to answer them yourself after your crush has answered.
Even so, salt should always be on a Jewish table, and there is a Kabbalistic custom to dip the bread in salt 3 times at the start of every meal.
(Many are particular to do this on Shabbat.) The reason for this custom is because the table that we eat on is compared to the Altar that once stood in the Holy Temple. Just as all offerings on the Altar were salted, the bread that we eat is salted, too.
Below, I’ve put together 75 thought-provoking, interesting and deep questions to get to know someone.
They’re questions that will ignite stimulating, personal conversations and will help you to build deeper connections with people.